Even better, replace the word "constructive" with the words "not attractive":
"Don't try that passive-aggressive finger-pointing on me; I don't appreciate it and, really, it's not very unattractive."
It's a powerful word.
Puppy
I think you have a typeo there?
Anyhow, I find constructive as as term is easier to emperically qualify. Attractive is a HUGE debating point.
Yes, it's a "typeo," lol. Sorry. Should say "it's NOT very attractive" or "it's very UNattractive."
And I get that it's not easy to measure, and that it's an emotionally-charged word. That's precisely why it's so POWERFUL.
As former US Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart once said famously, about pornography: "I can't define it, but I know what it is when I see it." Our spouses know what "unattractive" looks like, and they DON'T want to think that they're displaying it!
Sorry. Should say "it's NOT very attractive" or "it's very UNattractive."