Allen A. Thank you for all your advice, when I read it, it makes so much sense to me. Putting it into action is the hard part.
I realize now that I have been pursing H and acting very desperate since he halfheartedly said he wanted to try to work it out. I'm going to try to start focusing on me, and not bring up any R talk (it always seems to be me that starts). I need to start detaching more then ever an act as if.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10