Allen A.
Thank you for all your advice, when I read it, it makes so much sense to me. Putting it into action is the hard part.

I realize now that I have been pursing H and acting very desperate since he halfheartedly said he wanted to try to work it out. I'm going to try to start focusing on me, and not bring up any R talk (it always seems to be me that starts). I need to start detaching more then ever an act as if.


Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10