Even better, replace the word "constructive" with the words "not attractive":
"Don't try that passive-aggressive finger-pointing on me; I don't appreciate it and, really, it's not very unattractive."
It's a powerful word.
Puppy
I think you have a typeo there?
Anyhow, I find constructive as as term is easier to emperically qualify. Attractive is a HUGE debating point.
Its up t mb obviously, but i would use "Not constructive"... i use that one here and it does invite some helful convo.
WIFE : OK, so, when you walk out of the house without saying a word is that constructive?
ME : Hmmmm... No, its not. You are right. I won't do that again ok? I am sorry...
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In my home at least, it has proven to promote healthy discussion and some progress... You may have to find a word in yoru home that will work with him... in my home "healthy" and "constructive" works well.. "attractive" would not work nearly as well.. i would be accused of being manipulative if I told her that her behaviour was "unattractive" lol
