I give people credit for doing the best they can for so long. I find myself wondering if I even want to have this thing lingering anymore.
Have you read DB or DR. These are the thought's that need to have the STOP sign image burnt into your brain. That is if you want to save your marriage.Did you make a list of goals and boundaries?
Originally Posted By: maynard2121
I know that if I detatch correctly, this thing won't matter, as I will be going on w/ my life w/o a care of my M's fate. Maybe it's just the thought of W or whatever, but I feel hooked again here for the moment- my selfishness of wanting what I want
I detached too far. It can be dangerous territory for sure, took a few weeks to get back, I mean everyday trying to get back. But it was never about not caring for my M's fate. It was because I stopped overemphasizing the status of my M. Make sense?
It ain't a marriage right now is it? It's a piece of paper, a marriage is not what you have right now. So do not obsess over it, don't talk about it, etc... It's tough but you can do it -Work on you.
You are doing better than I did and I give you props. It took me 15pgs or so into my first thread to Really " GET IT".
M43 W43 D11 S7 M18 T20 WAW is back & trying (no she was lying) Close to callin' it busted but.... watching Whatever the outcome - It was a choice.
