Is there hope?

[OnceBurdened]

OM GF and I are in contact almost daily. It's funny that I actually give her advice on her R w/ OM. Letting her know what I've learned about boundaries, etc, etc.
She gave me some insight of OM. They met when she was involved w/ someone. She started to have doubts about her R- OM was there to listen and validate- assuring her that she deserved better...sound familiar?

Sounds real familiar to my sitch. I'm careful with the info derivered from OMW in my case and I'd advise you to do the same.

She is a great source of info for you but remember she is a liar and a cheater also. That skews her truth and outlook. I am in same sitch and I try to help OMW as much as possible- also- but just don't take her word to the bank.

I am feeling pretty good about things- I can visualize the end of the M, I can feel it as well. It's funny- I was developing a bit of an EA w/ a previous gf in GA- I nixed that the other day, letting her know I don't want to involve her in my issues and it's not fair to anyone. I'll tell you though, it did numb the pain talking to her, but it feels even better to do the right thing.
I actually feel OK by myself and w/ myself.

There are mixed feelings on the dating/relationship front as it pertains to the LBS. Although I started out against it the fact remained that my W was in the midst of a full blown PA with a buddy of mine. So what was I going to do that was so wrong by talking to OW?

Now I said - Talking. I do not feel generic talk about your life with someone else is an EA.I found that generic "She has chosen to do some things that I don't agree with" comments concerning my M status were good for me.Any further inquiries were met with a change of subject or "i don't wanna talk about it". The main thing I was doing, and I would also suggest to you, is to get out there and meet people and YES it will involve the opposite sex. It is invigorating, reinforcing, and can boost your ego. What is wrong with that?

YOU know when you cross a line. Sounds like you knew it and didn't. I think your doing fine.

Remember DBing isn't just about busting the divorce, it's about busting out of the ways that may have contributed to a divorce and becoming a better person in and out of all life's relationships.I have never seen any one suggest that you can change the other person. All you can do is change you. Than maybe by doing that the WAS will change their mind. Then it's up to you again.

By the way - You say you can visualize the end of the M. Is that what YOU want?