Leave kleenexes lying around so he can see you've been crycing, but don't cry in front of him... draw his curiousity in.
Get those darn books we told you to buy. Buy some "You can save your marriage" books and leave them aroud so he can see you are working on this... he may even pick one up out of curiousity.
Just don't ENGAGE HIM in conversation. He's just going to turn it into an argument.
How do you be upbeat while all this is giong on? It is hard, but you can do it.
1. You are saving your marriage and your family. You didn't run away and give up. That is something to be PROUD of. 2. You spoke up about the infidelity - you demanding respect - that's something to be proud of 3. You are educating yoruself on infidelity to protect yourself and your home - education is something to be proud of.
You are doing a FAR more respectable thing for you and your kids than he is.. be proud of yourself.
THe less you argue with him, the less you get drawn into his soap opera (and believe me it is one... you dont' see it but they DO argue all the time I am sure)
The more you remain an island from this affair the better you will feel.
You are LETTING him DRAW you into his drama. Just walk away.
State your mind, protest, proove the affair, but do NOT engage him in this drama.
He's like a five year old crying and having a tantrum... you don't cater to that, you just ignore it right?
