Back here, for the second time... #69

[awest1217]

If that is what H wrote to you, that is exactly what I always get. He doesn't want to lose you, but he is not willing to give you what you want. If you say D, then he gets extremely upset, but if you say you want to work on things, he won't try. It is just so hard to know what to do. At some point, I think you just have to say enough is enough, which from what I have read you have done, and he has to choose. I agree with previous people. Maybe try to give him a chance to say what he wants to change about himself because then he said it and there can be more accountability because he came up with it.