My parents divorced when I was 15. It took over 7 years to finally reach a property settlement and both of them felt like they got screwed. It was as ugly as it gets. But now, talking to them, they both realize what a mistake they made and how life would have been so much different if they had stayed together. Time does heal all wounds...or at least most of them.
You do have to protect yourself and hopefully someday your H will understand that you did what you had to do. Try to be fair and reasonable. What more could he expect from you?
