Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[trytryagain]

well, the balancing thing has always been a challenge for us. we decided that if he was going to "work" events where he knew he'd be looking for business contacts and doing a lot of networking, that i'd be better off to not go to those with him. he felt too much pressure to entertain me while simultaneously trying to drum up business and "working the room."

you both have to accept the differences and make more compromises if you want to get past the issue of spending time together. she needs to find the confidence within herself to realize that if you are in a social situation and not by her side all night, it doesn't necessarily mean she is not the most important person in the room to you. my H would do things like come over to check on me every now and then, or wink at me from across the room, or even send me a text that said he loved me or something small like that to make me feel like he cared. i also had to accept that it would be like trying to clip a bird's wings for me to expect him to stay by my side and dote on me all night.

it's a difficult balance for sure, and it does require a lot of work on both sides. she needs to accept you, you need to accept her. she needs to feel special and wanted, you need to feel that you have freedom within your M to spread your wings now and then.