no idea what to do......

[gman]

small update...
been a much improved person (in my eyes anyways), not letting the little things that used to annoy me get to me - i feel much better,

BUT

W is in a dark place and makes me very upset to see her like this, kids are like a trigger to her lately, she just seems super stressed. I do try to occupy the kids when i get home from work but by then i think she is at her wits end.

also think that me working on me is kind of pissing her off at times, not to mention i do not take her verbal "bait" anymore.

is it possible or the norm for the WAS to detest what she is seeing now?

i have told her repeatedly when she trys to say something about the way things were - "i do not want to go back to the way things were, it is not fair to you or me. I can only work on the future and that i hope she will as well"

i still find that pursuing is a real bitch not to do - it is in my nature, i am a "physical" touch kind of love langue person.