how do i keep my hope alive?

[talia]

TTA,
I just saw your post - we were posting at the same time! You are right - you do need to interact with H. Just only do it as necessary. There's no need to respond to that email. Maybe you wait until you have something to report back... say ... you paid a joint bill and THEN slip in at the end something like "OH - BTW - Thanks for taking care of the paycheck thing. You were always so good at making sure I'm provided for" and leave it at that. It shows gratitude, but on your terms, gives you a reason to slip in a compliment - which is what men need to feel like men - and you aren't readily jumping to respond to his very communication. You are acting... not reacting. That's how you want to handle it.

With shared finances you can't just ignore him. Just be the driver with your interactions, not the passenger in his... Make sense??? I'm a little foggy today.

OK ... TO GAL
I'm so glad you are going back to YOGA! I loved doing Yoga - its so good for the mind! Keep filling your time with those things that you neglected previously - you will start to find it empowering. Sounds like the support group is a great big AVOID from now on... yuck. Sorry that was such a bad experience.

Remember - only a truly whole person can be a good partner to someone else. Can you be a good partner? IF NOT focus on getting yourself to that point as your #1 priority and the M stuff will fall into place.

I don't know if you are spiritual in any way.. but I believe you need to have faith that the things you need in your life will be there when you need them. Have faith things will come together as they should....

T