Those people close to me who I have discussed this with feel I would be best served to move things along given her unstable financial situation and her behavior with OM. The feeling being the sooner I get things wrapped up signed and stamped the better off I am. The problem with that is it just pushes us closer to the end.
I know what you mean but that is the 180 there for you, pushing forward with the mediation. It is fear of the impending D that you have to face and I know that hard. It feels like you are giving up. I think back to Sandi's tag line at the bottom of her posts....it is not about doing what feels right it is about doing what works. Much easier said than done.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.