I can RELATE- in a big way.
The affection is a 180, but if its unwanted, its a no-no. Then fun times are hard to have b/c you're focused on OW- that means you have fun for a bit, then open your mouth about something- then backslidesville.
I guess the main thing to focus on is you. If the M doesn't last or never comes to be- you are left w/ you. H knows how you feel, and isn't there yet. I guess having fun times w/ you and talking to OW is some cake-eating.
Any R talk, rationalizing, etc is percieved as controlling or manipulations- imagine logic and rational thought being manipulative- WTF?!?!


DARK