Puppy,
What you say makes perferct since. I feel like I'm walking on egg shells around my H, like I can't say anything or else he'll take it as controlling. I need to practice in the mirror with the boundries.

Friend has not creditinals at all, just that him and his wife went through a similar sitch about 5 years ago. So I know not to take what he say's to heart.

Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10