Here's my story..midlife crisis/infidelity

[January girl]

I see at least three choices:

1) Decline. (One-on-one bonding time for both kids)

2) Decline, but send both kids with dad. Dad takes on full parenting time and you GAL.

3) Accept. Family time. You can DB. Be in the present and enjoy the experience.

What are your thoughts on each of the choices?

I think decline is not a good choice because then it will look like I'm intimated to do this.

He is going to have D9 on Friday night-overnight-but I'm just not quite ready for S1 to be gone overnight at H's apartment yet.

I think accept is the best choice but that I should play it by ear for the upcoming weekends to not always meet for breakfast because that just sets him up to have all day Saturday and Sunday to "be footloose and fancy free."

I also know that I have to "get over" my hang-up about not letting S1 stay overnight.

Please keep the helpful words coming...they are really helping me.