Same here- maybe I am the female in the R, I am all about security and consistancy. I def should have switched things up a bit. We always laughed how we were the typical FL oldfolks- going out to eat on the Ave and leaving by 6pm before everything got busy. Oh well. So W texted me lastnight that she would be over in the morning to see the dogs. House was clean I made sure to leave before she got there- she never gave a time. I did not reply to the text. I did leave a coffee cup out on the counter like I always did for her, w/ a half pot left. I also did not leave a note- a huge 180 for me. OM GF and I are in contact almost daily. It's funny that I actually give her advice on her R w/ OM. Letting her know what I've learned about boundaries, etc, etc. She gave me some insight of OM. They met when she was involved w/ someone. She started to have doubts about her R- OM was there to listen and validate- assuring her that she deserved better...sound familiar? I would love to use logic w/ W and let her know these things, but it just doesn't matter. Plus I promised OM's GF not to say anything. I am feeling pretty good about things- I can visualize the end of the M, I can feel it as well. It's funny- I was developing a bit of an EA w/ a previous gf in GA- I nixed that the other day, letting her know I don't want to involve her in my issues and it's not fair to anyone. I'll tell you though, it did numb the pain talking to her, but it feels even better to do the right thing. I actually feel OK by myself and w/ myself. I have been battling some deamons and need to do some more positive things to counter the problem. (I started gambling-not a good thing for me!!!)
