That he could remain friends with my sister if he was transparent about what he was doing and also that she was friends with both of us (knew the last bit would be the hard bit as I know she doesnt want to be, she has had plenty of opportunity in the last month after speaking when my parents were ill)
rr22 yes sister is a big pot stirrer and has treated me badly in the past. Has not been speaking to me for the last five years except when she has to at family occasions. I know that she wishes she had got to H before he met me! Its not him I dont trust.
Hope yes I thought the best thing was to step aside and try and get my head round what I wanted to do! Trouble is I dont know what consequence to apply to the boundary feeling a bit powerless on this one,
Addie its hard isnt it, its disrespectful but you feel that push it will just blow up in your face and apart from that and him needing a job things are good.. If it was as simple as him leaving his socks on the floor I could live with it lol!
Freckle totally agree with you on the honesty, and if it had been any other subject I would have been honest, but this one keeps coming back up and he digs his heels in like a spoilt child being told he cant be friends with someone. It was just more of a case of I didnt want to do the same old thing again cos it got me no where.
I went to bed, took my laptop with me to give some sense of me wanting to do something alone that he couldnt see, and put my laptop down when he came up, he put his PJ's on but when I asked if he was cold he said no, so they were just a barrier.. I then asked where something was and apparently it has become his rather than ours, to be fair it was his present but we had shared, so I went off to use something else and came to bed muttering I'd have to buy my own one. Wouldnt cuddle me and didnt want a cuddle when I offered, so I went to sleep. This morning he gave me a cuddle and then eventually a kiss, I know its mind reading but it obviously annoyed him but at the same time he is struggling with disrespecting me, I should hope lol!
Thanks for all the advice girls think this one is going to come up again!
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