I'm moving over from the Newcomers forum. Tomorrow, my STBX and I will go to the courthouse and file jointly for D. I believe I did all I could to give him space and time to think through his choices, but when I learned a couple weeks ago that he is engaged to the OW (22 yo) I knew I really had to walk away. Emotionally, I've held out hope that he might wake up from the MLC but the fog is as heavy as ever from my viewpoint and I need to regain some self respect.
So, I've been in contact with him since I learned of the engagement to go ahead and file. The sooner the better. We were supposed to go downtown yesterday but he didn't respond to my texts about when, etc. So, now we're scheduled to go tmrw at lunch. I feel sad about this sitch, but know I absolutely have to keep pressing for the joint filing. I set a deadline for myself of Mar 1 to do this and if he doesn't follow through, I will file for D myself.
My goal is to be confident and get through the paperwork as amiably as possible. I really hope to not get emotional tmrw (at least until after we part ways) and yet, I don't want to be cold. It's a hard one but I guess I'll just keep reminding myself that he actually asked someone else to marry him - while he's still married - and this is the only alternative.
If anyone has some suggestions for handling the interaction tmrw, I'd sure appreciate it.
