There is nothing easier or better about FB, but it is commonly referred to as the "alt" on DB. The one advantage that it does provide is a way to keep in touch with friends long after people leave the forum.
It is important to have a plan... there is one thing though... a plan is never "set". Think of it as a general outline or a rough draft of what you're heading for. It can also be a checklist. The plan I drew up for myself looked more like a flowchart of "IF... THEN... ELSE..." for different phases.
Where a plan helped me was keep me in check to not react. I was prepared for a lot of the different twists and turns in the plot -- and I drew up my plan when I was in a "logical" state of mind. It still keeps me on the "straight and narrow" during the emotional moodswings.
The next thing... you need list out your requirements for how you wish to be treated by your W. What is acceptable and not acceptable behavior. From there you will draw up your boundaries with consequences when they are crossed. Boundaries are personal and they relate to you.
