Its certainly your right to decide whats best for your life but that right exists also for each of us here. It sounds to me as if you are trying to convince others to make the same stand as you. Just an observation from a fellow DBer.
Goldfiber, you are reading my message wrong. Nowhere have I said that other people do not have a right to attempt to save their marriage or that people here should make the same stand as me. If anything, I /emphasized/ that I was writing from my perspective. I know this website has helped me understand some of the actions that he's doing to slow down the divorce.
I posted here because I thought it might help for people who are going through a divorce and DON'T want to be divorced to understand the perspective of someone who is the one filing for it. Just another perspective, not a plea for solidarity.
If anything, I would think it would HELP DB practitioners to see how their WAS might be thinking. If these tips help, that's great...I put in my post that there was a lot of good advice here.
But let me more general: I think that every person who is the one who files for divorce has some type of "line" that they cross where divorce becomes the best option to take. Whether it's infidelity - as in my case - or meeting someone else or not being in love with your spouse, there's a point where you are unwilling or unable to go backwards.
So when LBS ask the question: how can my husband/wife leave years of marriage or kids or something like that, the answer becomes remarkably simple. Filing for divorce is the best choice for the current situation.
I'm not saying it's the correct choice - clearly a lot of people here would rather be married than divorced - but it is, for lack a better word, the BEST choice. And I mean "best" as "best" for the person who wants the marriage to end.
