"From my perspective, there is absolutely nothing he could do to make me change my mind. There is no "task" he could do - marital counseling, flowers, being remorseful, etc. - that would change my mind. He asked something once (paraphrasing): How sorry do I have to be to win you back?
The problem is that regret/remorse/changing himself is not the currency that would stop the D. It's just not relevant to this whole sad situation.
Like I put in another post, when he asks that makes as little sense as someone asking you "What car should I buy?" and someone answers "3:30pm."
I don't want to be a finger-wagger here, and there seems to be a lot of good advice. But I wanted to share my insight with those who might be in a similar situation and give my perspective." [/quote]
Maybe, this is a little finger wagging here as I have seen this post in another place on this board.Could it be that you have pigeon-hole yourself and would like to find a way to forgive your H. Reading your post for the second times just sounds a little self righetous to me. Its certainly your right to decide whats best for your life but that right exists also for each of us here. It sounds to me as if you are trying to convince others to make the same stand as you. Just an observation from a fellow DBer.
