What a great post! I agree with everything you said. It is just hard a times as you know to live by.
I am talking in therapy about what it will take for me to stay in the relationship with my H and whether I can handle doing what it takes. Some weeks I hear things that sound so simple and doable but then I find it is actually hard to live that way. Some weeks I hear things that sound like my therapist is saying it is too hard on me.
All in all, I guess the bottom line is that it is hard - my therapist told me from the start long ago that my H is about as hard as it gets. I wasn't daunted by that at the time, but so often I hear that I don't have to do this. Spiritually if we can talk this way, I think I am being guided to let go and give us each room to grow and then we will either come together or not.
