I am doing well. It is easier really, not having him here every day. I relax and don't think so much about his current issues. It was a bit daunting taking the step to call her out. And now I know - she is no innocent misled woman. Since she knew all along, I feel no guilt in what she may suffer as a result of my DBing efforts. I don't intend to go after her, but I do hope she gets hurt. I know, petty and low, but there it is.
I have not spoken to his chain of command yet. I am worried b/c one of my other Army wife friends said there is no such thing as "off the record" with them. As for what happens in Theater, I can't even begin to imagine what it does to them. But that is a separate situation as far as I am concerned. I will be happy to do what I can to help him with his PTSD, but I am not really his wife as long as OW is in the picture.
I've actually thought about writing him a letter and leaving it for him to read while I'm in Las Vegas. It would outline boundaries and what I expect as long as we are living together. I will most likely now hear about my cowardice again. Bring on the 2x4's...I can take it. Yes, I should say it to his face. But I think about the cold, closed look on his face whenever I say anything he doesn't feel like hearing. And I clam up before I ever open my mouth. So I thought that at least a letter would make my position clear. What does everyone think?
No we are not at the same level until she is gone and he wants to work on our marriage. But at that point at least we will have common ground to work from.
What else is there to do? Make myself happy. GAL, lose some weight, smile at the woman in the mirror, and get my business moving again. Anybody want to tell me how to meet women in this area without resorting to Myspace? I have about two at the moment who I've even spoken to...in three weeks. Bleh. I forgot how hard it is to meet people.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
GAL, lose some weight, smile at the woman in the mirror, and get my business moving again. Anybody want to tell me how to meet women in this area without resorting to Myspace? I have about two at the moment who I've even spoken to...in three weeks. Bleh. I forgot how hard it is to meet people.