Changing Man

[SpyBunny]

I'm glad you have someone looking after your interests this time, I hope it goes better and you can finally close this out. I'll be thinking of you this week-
Hugs, Bunny

[Gypsy]

G'Man..

Follow Bob's advice.

Meditate before going. Be in a good place to make good decisions. Relax. Put a word or a little doodle some place inconspicuous to act as a reminder (the palm of your hand, inside of your little finger, under your watch band).

Bob knows the law, how it works. Let him take the reins, do the talking. Leave all the emotions behind you. This is business, cut and dried based on percentages.

Your wife emailing Bob was inappropriate. Her lawyer directly emailing you was unethical. And lawyers work on a code of ethics. Without following ethics they could be disbarred. Tell Bob know about the email (if you haven't already).

You're in good hands.

*hugs*

[givingitmyall]

Gardener,

If stbxw's L knew you were represented by a L when he sent you ANY communication, that a likely violation of the Bar rules. One time might be a mistake. But it better not happen again.

[Awoken]

Hi Gardener,
been reading your thread(s) a long time; I'm thinking of you today.

[whiskey.tango]

G,

First post to you - I feel your pain.

My D was financially significant, my exH was a real a$$, unfair and unethical.

However,the light at the end of the tunnel is real. Always take care of you,honor yourself, keeping to the path to your highest good.

Just sending you good energy and thoughts. You will be fine. Better than fine, even.

WT

[Gardener]

Serenity, Bunny, gima, Kara, Awoken, Whiskey, Gypsy, anyone I may have forgotten, and everyone who may have lurked supportively:

You lift me up when I am down. And I am grateful and send you all blessings and prayers.

I'm much better today. Actually looking forward to tomorrow's big Pow Wow.

G'Man..Follow Bob's advice.

Oh, you betcha.

Meditate before going. Be in a good place to make good decisions. Relax.

Oh, I will, I will. Bob said the very same thing to me not ten minutes ago. I'm very good at meditation - going within and just being - and I will be in as deeply a centered and good state of being as possible tomorrow.

Heck, If I had the time and knew where to go buy 'em, I'd consider taking Dia up on her Mediation double dog dare from a couple of months back (and give Coach a chuckle, too):

I double dog dare you to show up at the meeting wearing Groucho Marx glasses or those google-eyed ones on springs!

I'll double that bet! Too funny Dia.

Put a word or a little doodle some place inconspicuous to act as a reminder (the palm of your hand, inside of your little finger, under your watch band).

Great idea!

Bob knows the law...Let him take the reins, do the talking. Leave all the emotions behind you. This is business, cut and dried based on percentages...You're in good hands.

Yes. Thank God.
I'll post when I get back tomorrow morning.




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[Gardener]

Update,

This morning's mediator and respective lawyers pow wow is over.

It went well. TGSTBXW apologized to my L for going ballistic and emailing him last week when she misread his corrections to the document and assumed he was suddenly asking for more $. She had already apologized to me for same last week.

Give and take. Went well. Before the meeting started, I asked my lawyer for a code word: whenever he wanted me to agree and not argue or opine, he was to simply say, "Gardener, I suggest..." It worked out fine. I was very calm, relieved, and actually quite content throughout.

TGSTBXW and her L still think I have the "benefit" of living in the house after she offered to (kick me out and) move back in.
Me: "On 12/02/08 I lived in my home as I had for 11 years. On 12/04/08 I lived in my home as I had for 11 years. What happened in that one day interim? TGSTBXW left. Now tell me what I did wrong."

It's as good an agreement as it could be short of going through $$Litigation$$ in court. My L, and to her credit, mediocre Mediator straightened everything out. TGSTBXW's young lawyer was out of her league and outgunned by my lawyer, fortunately. He's not Irish, but he has Irish diplomacy down pat: Telling someone to go to Hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip!

Curiously, at the very end of the meeting, TGSTBXW shows me i Phone photos of new Granddaughter. I have not seen her since she was 2 weeks old during my October visit. Since StepD cut off all contact with me, I've not been included in email photos.

12 pictures. Four months old now. Plump, happy, and beautiful!
Gardener cried. (What else is new?)

Loss. Just needless loss all around.

D is Next Tuesday, Feb. 09. Finally.

By agreement, I had broker lower asking price of house this afternoon.

Onward. And eventually upward.

[Serenity13]

(((Gardener))))

My friend - Such needless pain and loss that no one wanted nor asked for...I know this is hard on you however you are handling it with Grace and Dignity and I for one am proud to call you friend.

When you need it -
http://www.parishic.com/Handy%20Little%20Chart.htm

(((((Hugs)))))

[luvless]

I concur....

((((((gardener))))

[goldeylox]

lurking...hugs