Really glad you decided to join our group. I can relate to what your W is doing b/c I did much of the same thing. I would encourage you to look up on the Internet information about women addicted to EA's. I think your W is certainly addicted.....and not to just that one OM but contacting other men and flirting. Take it seriously!
It's very important that you come back and post every chance you get. If you don't post almost daily, then people get discouraged and move on to others....so keep us updated. It's good for you to talk it out.
She needs to have something to do to keep her busy instead of laying up and sleeping all day and playing all night. Stop doing any of the household chores. Take care of your needs and force her to take care of the children and the home. Don't make anything easy for her. This is the time to be firm, strong, and tough. Don't be a jerk, but use tough love in everything you say & do with her.
Read the thread about boundaries b/c you must lay down boundaries and enforce consequences or she will continue to disrespect you and it will teach your children to do likewise.
Think things over carefully before you speak. Know what you cannot tolerate and what the boundaries will be. Be sure that you can enforce the consequences or it's a waste of time. A WAW has to suffer something or she will not come out of her fog. She has to be shocked (greatly) or experience a loss from her actions......and be put in a place where she has to respect boundaries or else she has to leave. That in itself can be a shock and/or loss to her!
There is much for you to grasp, so do your homework by reading as many threads as you can.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
