Back here, for the second time... #69

[dday101798]

In agreeance with what PH pointed out, and this grabbed my attention:

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-I hate it when you ignore me
-I dont
-well it feels like you are
-but I am not, I read it

I know it can be hard in the heat of the moment, but I'm a stickler on key wording and how to phrase things. This is a prime example of how we are supposed to 'change' our mode of talk to our spouses, like this should have been "I feel like I'm being ignored at the moment and wish for some more insight on 'issue A".

I think that is the one thing that really stuck out since day one that I picked up the DB book, that I really did not communicate effectively with my (x)W and nor her to I. We were all about "I hate", "you never", "you always" and the like, it is highly reminiscing of the things that went wrong. Somehow, I managed to elimnate those completely from my vocabulary when stressing a negativety I feel from my (x)W. Ironcially, she must have picked up on it, as she has as well. And we communicate 1,000 times better than I think we ever have.

Just my token observation.