The L did not ASK you H what do you want to do? If he did, he probably didn't listen long.
Then - He said 'list the shared property - because that is what they will do'
Then - He said 'here is what we need to do - because this is what they will do'
And he said 'nothing is personal, just standard procedure'
The L might even have told him 'if you don't protect half the kid's money, there won't be any when they need it'
His L doesn't know you, doesn't plan to. Doesn't represent you, can't. Follows a learned game plan, less effort, less overhead, hand it off to the clerk to type.
I lean toward 'it is easier to give something back after you get it - than to get it after they took it away'
Like they said, this is first round of a multiple. Soak in a tub. Think all the bad things you want, then let them go and replace them with happy thoughts that we won't have to read in the headlines. I've heard it helps to think of shoes on sale.
