Really p*ssed off tonight, I suppose I have chosen to ignore this boundary for a while to see if it would stop, but it seems that despite me setting the boundary of transparency about H's contact with my sister, he is continuing to do so on msn frequently. My boundary was that he should only maintain contact with her if she was going to be friends with both of us, knowing full well that is not her intention. H knows this too but is chosing to ignore this fact. Every time I have tried to tackle this one Im on to a losing battle as he is just ignoring me. In fact I left it for a while hoping that he would see that he wanted to be with me more than contacting her, but it seems that his idea of transparency is not to close the msn box at the bottom of his screen.
Tonight after not making it particuarly clear I had seen the msn box I pulled away, distancing myself and being less affectionate, mostly cos thats sensible and also because Im so furious that he is totally disrespecting me. He asked if I was annoyed with him and I suppose I could have taken the opportunity to say something but feel WHY do I bother if he cared he knows I want it to stop. I just said No, have you done anything that you think would upset me and he replied NO and Im sure he knows what he is doing.. Im now in bed I came up earlier before I say something I regret or he will ignore.
I just dont know what to do about this one but its becoming a dealbreaker due to the lack of respect he has for my request! Help folks what do I do?
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
