#2: WAH separated from us & I'm on the DBing path

[flowmom]

I could use some input on IC. I could get IC for free through H's work. But I am really dubious about run-of-the-mill counsellors. My experience is that many are not effective and I feel that in the past in my IC, there was a lot more talk than results. I am really good at talking. I need help with formulating goals, finding solutions, taking action. A standard one hour C session is $140 around here. But there is a guy who seems a good reputation who got this recommendation:

[His] therapy works! His therapy is very supportive of couples. I refer my Canadian based clients to him and the feedback has always been excellent!" -- Michelle Weiner-Davis

He also does IC, but he charges $250/hr, a lot more than the standard rate. His web site says that the "majority of people attend counseling for 4-5 sessions", so the overall cost would not be insane, in theory. Thoughts on getting the free counselling vs the expensive guy? I'm afraid of getting advice from the wrong person...I'm at a fork in the road where I'll be making a lot of decisions (career, relationship, parenting, etc.) that will have serious consequences. And the cost of 4-5 sessions ($1000-$1250) would be a drop in the bucket compared to the cost of making the wrong financial choices because of my emotional/psychological state. I also like the fact that the expensive guy would presumably be familiar with DBing because I don't want to undermine that. OTOH, maybe I'm justifying something really spendy that I can't afford.