I'll be on a ferry tonight. I'll make sure I have a dram and toast your good health!
Good luck with WAH today. You're a strong girl. He's an incredibly weak, petty and threatened man. Make sure he doesn't push your buttons, but also make sure you can punch his.
You're doing good!
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
Thank you P! So far a great morning. The kids woke me up with kisses and hugs. Heaven.
LOL... "punch his" buttons. Too funny. Love it. I really don't care anymore. I really don't care about what I'm going to wear either. Just going to be me and be in the moment... there for my son. STBX is not worth my thoughts especially today.
Enjoy the ferry! Hope you have a great time tonight.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
I really don't care about what I'm going to wear either. Just going to be me and be in the moment... there for my son.
DbD I totally agree. I have noticed recently though that when I'm back in shirts and trousers (I'm a jeans and t-shirt man and working from him keeps me like that) I walk better, I talk better and I feel better. So wear something YOU feel great in. Who cares what he thinks. Confidence is the most attractive thing in a person. Good clothes you are happy and comfortable in give you that confidence. Oh and good perfume.
Do this for you. It will give you a much needed boost when you see him because no matter how much you prepare, you will still get a little bit of the wobbly stomach - it's inevitable.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
And yeah, I know I'll still get wobbly stomach, but it's more from not wanting to be "attacked" anymore and not for another reason.
I should have been clearer Didn't mean to imply the love thing would be a problem.
As you said, the wobbly stomach is because of the situation and seeing the 'enemy' again. Puts you on edge and makes you apprehensive. Like Cutter though, I have no doubt you will handle it with dignity and confidence.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
Back... it was all for naught. S mislead him on the time last night it seems.
Got TM from him saying he found out the spelling bee was this morning. And if I didn't want him to go, I shouldn't have made S do my work... it may appear that way. I'm resisting responding. Pushed my buttons.
I also found out he switched lawyers. He's not going to use the same L that OW used to get her divorce in Aug. anymore.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
Honestly, I hope your lawyer goes for the jugular at this point!
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
Strange how WAS/STBX is dealing with the D. He filed, there was only one attempt at serving me and then the papers were back with his L. He switched L and now my L hasn't received info on who his new L is. His paperwork was incomplete and sloppy. He also isn't receiving good counsel... doing lots of things wrong according to my L. More evidence of "the fog"... for a moment I was weak thinking, oh he's realizing his mistake and not wanting a D. He's waking up. Still the thought of him acting all confused and switching L and now not being represented... hmmm... I was thinking it was me that got this in action... he was taking it back and found out I got a L and now is looking for a new L. But it doesn't matter...
I've got to look out for myself now and my kids. He should be giving us financial support. Plain and simple. The ball is already rolling.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
I really don't care anymore. I really don't care about what I'm going to wear either. Just going to be me and be in the moment... there for my son. STBX is not worth my thoughts especially today.