Be careful you don't rebound!!

[brknheart]

CTH,

That scared me. Then last night I had my first vivid dream about my estranged W. It ended with her kissing me and I woke up. That was very tough.

One year later, I still get these little dreamlets (I call them) 3-4 times a week. They last barely seconds.
I'll kinda feel her, hear her, it feels so real! And am drowsily aroused from sleep, fail to see or feel her form there in the dark, and mumble something sad like."that didn't just happen, did it?' or, "you're not there anymore, are you?" or, "Oh. Right. I forgot."

So real. So freaky. So sad. (sigh).

I hate that feeling. Im not even D yet but have those dreams 2-3 times a week. I sometimes dont even want to get out of bed to face reality. The woman I married doesnt exist anymore...she really doenst. The person I fell in love with wouldnt have done the things she did to me the past 5 mths. Speaking of rebounds, she is already getting involved with someone who I thought was a friend of mine. My STBXW asked me to do so many things for her the past 5 mths, the only thing I asked of her was to not date until the D was final. What a disappointment.

Back to the rebound thing. Many people have told me the easiest way to move on is to start dating again. The best way to drive a nail out is to drive a new nail in behind it.

So, what are the signs that its time to date again and it not be considered a rebound?