does she feel acknowledged for that? when you take her out, do you do things she wants to do or has talked about doing?
Is it fair to 'force' her to go out? I could try it as a surprise, but she gets so worried about the kids...I guess the pre-discussion would work for her, but it sure takes the fun out of it for me...balance I guess...
I love my kids as much as she does, but I value them becoming independent as I am, too. She can't detatch. That's probably why I feel upset about 'mom' being her (only) dream.
Originally Posted By: trytryagain
is it possible your wife doesn't want to be out with you because she feels that way, too?).
Good point. Ya well, we never go out - one of my many compromises to appease her, but it might be because of me ignoring her. I'll chaulk that up!
I REALLY hope you get a chance to show off what you've learned about your H. It is odd for me, because I'm driving the D but also trying to stop it? Weird, eh?
Originally Posted By: trytryagain
but i don't live in his head, so i supposed it's possible he also thinks he's considering what i want, only to get a slap in the face from me afterwards.
He might be slapping himself, too. But then again, he might be oblivious.
