how do i keep my hope alive?

[trytryagain]

the mars and venus book did at least give me insight to the fact that if my H wants or needs to pull away (john gray calls it the "rubber band effect" where men need to stretch and pull away either mentally, emotionally, or physically from time to time), it's not necessarily because of me. in the past i would think, oh my H seems distant. he must not love me as much anymore. so i would pursue him even more and seek assurance of his love - and at a time where he wasn't in a position to give it to me, i can only imagine the guilt that would make him feel...not to mention probably feeling like a failure for not being able to give me what i needed (due to the ADHD).

that documentary looks interesting, though...i'll have to check it out!