how do i keep my hope alive?

[talia]

TTA,
I'm glad you have a plan to do things for you. I think it sounds great!

I've read your posts since he left and you are only focusing on what HE thinks, how HE feels, what HE see's as issues in your marriage. You can't solve those for him and HE's gone so you can't influence how he solves them for himself. PLEASE STOP making yourself crazy about these things. You don't know what he's thinking or why he feels the way he does - so stop trying to read his mind. What he's thinking about your/your marriage/ his feeling's right now is none of your business. Trying to read his mind and rationalize what you THINK he's thinking to how you interpret his behavior will drive you to the mad house. Unless he wants to sit down and communicate these things to you all you can do is follow the last resort method. I don't believe you can do all the other things when you have limited contact with someone - the book even says that if you are separated this is your only viable option. Now you can do those other things when you interact... but for the most part they don't apply. I hope that makes sense... I'm a little off today

I want to see posts about you - what are you thinking and feeling - outside of H's context. How do YOU feel things were in your M, what were your concerns, what were things H should have done better for you?? These are the things you need to evaluate and decide how you feel about them. What are the good things in your life, what are the fleeting positive feelings you find yourself having, how does that make you more to the person you want to be?

Its OK to come here and talk about H and muse about all the things above. I just want to see that you are focusing more on you and not what H is thinking/feeling.....

You are doing GREAT - lets make this about You and YOUR HAPPINESS!!!!

Proud of You,
T

Oh - DB your mom. Set the boundaries - if she breaks them hand up on her. Tough Love.