I get why you might not feel comfortable filing. But it IS a legal strategy and remember that your number one priority is to protect yourself. You didn't start all this but you are darned well going to make lemonade out of lemons!
Good news on the house! I'm glad because you've put so much of yourself into it.
Re: dating, good for you. Just keep in mind that it is meant to be light and fun. Meeting new people and getting some male attention is always a good thing. Nothing serious.
Belly dancing sounds fun. I've toyed with the idea of taking a strip tease class, for the exercise of course!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g