My W feels that, too. I needed her to tell me that she wants some time and be willing to let me delay it 20 minutes.
Originally Posted By: trytryagain
if i could figure that 180 out, it could change a lot about the dynamic of my marriage.
You might also be a miracle worker! I've had a few times where I knew deep down my W wanted a touch, not talking. I didn't want the talking, so I just went somewhere else rather than feel guilty that I couldn't be there for her. I don't know if you can avoid the problem, exactly, but a few weeks ago my W came to me instead, massaged my shoulders, and suddenly I felt that I wanted to stop and talk for a bit. I don't know if that is what your H feels at times, but I know that when I feel like a bad H but I feel I'm a good person, it is hard to feel like my W is a good W.
When you're physically seperated, that might be harder. That is why I thought if your H ever hints towards watching a movie, dinner, etc, that you have an opportunity to show off your understandings of his 'weaknesses' as a S.
I wonder if the drugs or alcohol play a role... CBC Doc Zone about Pot. But then again, he has to want to stop it on his own, if it is a factor.
