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Sandi - your comments on W being upset at her choices really got me thinkging. One more piece to the puzzle. I'm no shrink, but I'd swear (and have for years) that my W has a mild case of AADD and that could be part of the problem. She often has trouble focusing on the task at hand...very easily distracted...could be part of the issue with her staying late at work. Wife also currently on some medication that was initially intended for something else, but she has found helps her focus. Those are her words and she says she can't describe it any better than that. Also, do you think the mood swings could possibly be hormonal?

RW/Rabbit - another day, I'm doing fine. Going on 36 hours of W being friendly/good mood after the episode on Sunday. The 5LLs going to be difficult. Although she hasn't taken it (and I won't suggest unless I get the feeling she is actually at place where she is willing to work on us), I would venture that physical touch is her primary and words of affirmation are the secondary. Those tough to fill in sitch where she wants none of that. I would guess acts of service are last for her, but don't really know...only say that because I have tried that multiple times with no visible results. Sending gifts not an option, so that leaves quality time, which right now I can't get her to do at all. Prime example:

Last night, I showed her the ski cabin I rented, although not perfect, it was nice. She had heard of another web site that we looked at and found some that seemed better for the same price. When the girls went to bed, I asked if she wanted to look at the cabins and figure that out. Her answer was more or less, I don't want to deal with that, whatever you booked us will be fine. Well I looked anyways, and I found a place that I thought was much better for the same price and will allow us to bring the dog. Later in the evening, out of the blue W apologizes for blowing me off on the cabin rental and asks me what I think. I told her that I had already done all the research and was going to try to switch our reservations if I could sweat talk my way out of a cancellation fee (which I did today)...but overall another odd exchange/interaction.