CH, IMHO you are seeing a baby step here but just let it sit. Don't hang your hat on it.
As for advice, you should move over to MLC and get to know the folks over there. Newcomers is good but there is way to many diverse situations here that tend to be confusing and emotionally draining.
One more thing, have you made significant changes in how you handle your finances? I remember you saying something about bankruptcy and other financial issues. Have you grown in these areas?
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_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
I agree w/ the post above- there are many ups and downs, be happy and celebrate it if you like, but it is but a single instance. Try to string as many of those along together as you can. You can do it, keep doing what works.
On the day we are preparing for our separation, w showed me her wedding ring and pointed out that a diamond had fallen out. This gave her reason to remove the ring, saying she'd take it to the jeweler and have the other diamonds looked at to make sure that none are loose.
I'm very uncomfortable with her not wearing her ring, especially now that we are separated. I offered to take the ring in myself for her, but she said she'd take care of it. Do I push this issue? This is day 1 of separation.
An update. We separated in early February. She has just filed. I have not received the papers yet; she wants to meet me at a notary instead of having me served. I have been dragging my feet. I don't even want to see the papers. I did let her know that I would meet her ... I know I have no choice but to face it.
What can I expect from here? I still want to save this marriage if it can be done ... but now that it's gone this far, I seem to be out of DB moves ...
