He's just not as interested in traveling as i am, but i'm pretty sure i can say that i straight up TELL HIM about those dreams.
Could it be that he thinks taking you out of city was meeting your dream? I guess what I'm saying is that I've often thought I considered what my W wants, but then I sometimes get the slap in the face that tells me I've really missed the mark. I wonder if I need to spend more time with her to find out?
To be honest, I worry that her dream is just being a mother. She has fought to avoid babysitters & daycare except my S, so alone time has always been almost never. I tried taking her out a few times anyways, but she was in such a rush to go home or only talked about the kids. Maybe that is her dream, but it is hard for me when I want a friend, not just co-parents.
Originally Posted By: trytryagain
like he's bigger than life, so how on earth could i possibly hold his interest for very long when the next big thing is always just around the corner? i can't say that your W feels that way, i'm just saying how i've felt in my own M. i'm definitely insecure and have self esteem issues...not because he's made me FEEL unimportant or anything, just because i think, how on earth could i EVER be enough for this man?
Or me for her. My W wants to sit on the sofa. I want to go do things together. With the TV on, I want to 'get' the show - I need to focus. TV off...it is a lot of pressure to sit and wait for a topic. How can either of us be really meeting our emotional needs when she wants a warm home and I want to do more?
