Awoken, I agree it sounds like music is a positive part of your life and that you should GAL with no guilt.
I also want to share with you how some of H's activity passions have contributed to our marriage problems. I'm not saying that your W's experience is the same or even similar to mine...I'll leave it to you to think about whether there are any parallels. First, I am a very independent woman and I've always encouraged H to do things that he enjoys, etc. OTOH, the way that H has pursued his activity passions has left me out in the cold at times. I've perceived that H has at times pursued ego gratification in those activities at the expense of caring for our R or allowing me the time that I need for self care (in our parenting years). Sometimes his activities have felt like an A to me in a way. Now his activity passions have outlasted our M . Again, I want to emphasize that people do not see me as controlling of H's time or activities...on the contrary. But there have been hurt feelings on my part about how H has managed his activities, and how he has communicated his priorities to me. In our parenting years, there hasn't been much space for me to GAL because of H's activities. He turned his major activity passion into a side business, and that legitimized all the time and money he was spending on it, but it may not have been the best option for work-life balance.
Anyway, ignore if none of this resonates with you. And have a great trip .
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. Again, I want to emphasize that people do not see me as controlling of H's time or activities...on the contrary. But there have been hurt feelings on my part about how H has managed his activities, and how he has communicated his priorities to me. In our parenting years, there hasn't been much space for me to GAL because of H's activities. He turned his major activity passion into a side business, and that legitimized all the time and money he was spending on it, but it may not have been the best option for work-life balance.
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