how do i keep my hope alive?

[trytryagain]

what is the "it?" hmmm. the it is the cycle of our relationship, where we are fine and dandy and happy as clams for a few months, maybe even half a year or more, and then i begin to feel like i get less and less of his attention and focus, i let him know i need more and that i'm not feeling loved, and he responds with "nothing i ever do makes you happy."

let me tell you, reading mars and venus has been EYE OPENING in regards to "it." and it's certainly made me feel like i am a normal human being and not some sort of super freak that needs more attention than anyone else on the planet! but it's also made me understand that he has his own cycle as well, but it's the opposite of mine. i want to be closer, he wants to pull away.

how do you 180 in a relationship when you feel like your spouse isn't giving you enough of their time and/or attention? i tried spending more time away from home if he was out working, but that resulted in an email about how i never had time for him. if i could figure that 180 out, it could change a lot about the dynamic of my marriage.