Other symptoms are often masked as "laziness". Depression is often seen as being lazy, but that's not true. When you feel good, then you aren't usually lazy. Learn to be disciplined but also learn to be your own best friend, b/c your W is not going to be it! Glad you got your eyes opened before you handed everything over on a silver platter.
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I have been reading in these forums has shown me that this same weakness that I am now displaying is the same weakness that has put me in this situation.
Okay, well that's good. So set your goals and stay focused about setting out to do what needs to be done. When you are use to putting things off......it's hard to change, but not impossible. If you want to change badly enough, you can do it!
May I suggest that you don't try to stop smoking until you get the depression handled? You may be facing a D and you don't need to try to stop doing all your addictions (like smoking) at the same time you're drepressed and having M trouble! A lot of good men have tried and learned it was too much to handle all at one time.
I know you feel that your world has come to an end, but many people are here who can talk to you and know exactly how you're feeling. Remember that this woman you see today is not who you M. You need to grieve over the death of that R and decide that you'll seek to become a new man....and some day have a new R (maybe with this lady, or maybe not) but at any rate, you will be fine.
We've all made mistakes and we all learn from each other. You are not alone in this, okay?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
