Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Each situation is unique....

I think dday has been actively working his path on resolving issues and getting past the "cause".

Sometimes caution for the sake of caution can hold back the best in people.

This is all very true. It merely seems to me, some folks in their respectiv3e situations haven't quite just yet reached fullness in the "accept and forgive" portion of things that caused the M to go to heck in a handbasket and the fallout there afterward.

I the same as everyone else had a hard time doing just that. But I finally did and that's when things got much much easier. I had accepted for long time my faults and her faults as to why she wanted to D me. I have also since accepted the fact that she turned to OM, of which in my own way as we all do in the beginning, yes, I have my hand in pushing her in that direction. Conversely, I just had a hard time forgiving her for thinking that OM was the way, and forgiving her for how she went about it.

Hindsight, and to maybe help those who find themselves in that same internal conflict, thinking as I did, the "how can she do this to me?", "why did she leave me for OM?", made it a personal issue, to say the least of how the kids were impacted. And, well, then I realized, it was that personal selfishness, the me, me, me, that got us in the predicament in the first place.

So, now that things are back to an 'us' standpoint, it may look like things are going 'fast' from the outside. Especially to those who may very well be peicing themselves, but as righfully so are still worried about themselves getting hurt again. I can safely say now, that won't be happening. We have already hit a number of roadblocks and handled them well and have not dwelled on them at all.

Bottom line, I had always loved my (x)W, depsite the nasty venting I may have done here and there, but I loved her none the less. And she has me in turn. Despite the confusion, depsite OM, her love never faultered. Additionally, we love our kids very much. And this was tearing them up. Sure, there are still some issues with them. But as things move along, and as they have seen now, mom and dad still eachother very much, then it is my hopes that they will come to learn what is a line from one of my favorite movies of all times:

When two people love eachother, nothing can keep them apart.

Sappy, maybe. But in our hearts, true.