you've helped me a lot on my thread, in terms of giving me some insight on what it's like to be the spouse with ADHD.
Watching your 'process' has helped be more aware of the emotions that my W is going through. It has also helped me commit to giving the M my full effort through my 3 months before a D would be final.
My W has definately been accomodating with some of my decision, but dreams...not so much. Her self-esteem has made that hard. Still, she has tried.
I am now trying to address her needs better, but my list seems to show I'm not. I'll need to look at that again.
By the way, the motorcycle thing has been a dream of mine, too, but I put it to bed knowing I can be a clutz when not focused...I can imagine going 100Km/h an realizing there's a new store in town, and then...
I've asked my W about her dreams, but she doesn't seem to have any. Did you tell your H them, or should I just try to take notice if she hints - I don't know if I'd ever notice her hint.
Her not having dreams, being able to take care of her appointments, and other such things have made me feel she's very dependent - almost needy. I want to help her, not do it for her. Alot of my stress with her comes from this. In a M, I thought that two people are partners in all aspects, not just dividing roles and responsibilities. I think I would be a better spouse had I felt she and I made the home together by compromise and sharing.
