Here's my story..midlife crisis/infidelity

[January girl]

OK, you are going to show her how to "take the higher road" and be assertive, compassionate etc with men by how you interact with H.

Yes, that is EXACTLY what I have been doing. I won't resort to any name calling or back stabbing because quite frankly he is a great dad to her. I totally agree that taking the high road is my only option. I don't want to look back on these days and regret any memories that my daughter forms now.

She is planning to spend Friday night with H at his new apartment helping him unpack and watching movies. Believe it or not I do want them to have fun times....she needs it so much.

Here is the part I'm not sure about....

1.) H has asked if our son (age 18 months) and I want to meet up with D9 and him on Saturday morning for breakfast. Is this a good plan?

2.) H wants to pick the kids up daily from school/daycare to spend time with them.
Is this a good idea? Should I let them go back to "our house" during this time
or pick them up from the apartment?

3.) We have MC tonight @ 4. Should I say I want to continue or should I say no "He just needs to go to IC instead?"

4.) Should I ask for the house key when he moves out? The key fobs for my vehicle?

I agree these are the "bad" times.

Any input would be greatly appreciated.