So I'm working on detatching, but it is hard, because she is not making it easy.
I sent her an email yesterday telling her thank you for trying to be open and honest with me over the last week or so, and I know how hard that must be for her.
she said it was a big deal, earth changing, that she had so many emotions about it and wanted to talk to me about it. this morning said she wanted to skype w me while we watched Lost together... then she said she'd call me this morning... which she did.
the things that eat away at me are the om's kids and how intertwined they are with mine. his separated wife and the kids live about a mile down the road from my wife. the kids play together all the time (his wife and my wife sortof help each other with the kids). so my wife tells me that his wife might be going away for the next few days. to which i replied "who is going to watch the kids"? sortof a knee jerk. she said, "I don't know... probably their father". So I asked, "so does he stay over there when she is gone?" to which she replied... "I don't know... yea probably". obviously this is a lie. she knows exactly what he does when he does it. why she can't be totally truthful is really tough on me, especialy when she says she is being totally honest with me.
so I have the scenario played out that the next three days are likely to be snow days, my kids over there, she and him hangning out playing surrogate parents while the wife goes away... she is distant and non-communicative because she knows that I will know what is going on. Anyhow this is how I have played it out in my head. and so far I've been right about the things I play out in my head.
but how do I deal with her wanting to sortof "reconnect" with me while all of this stuff is going on with the so called OM's kids, my kids, all of that stuff. and I'm stuck down here 4 hours away. I have to just take it? Act nice on the phone all the time no matter what, even when it seems she may be lying?
