Everything that H said was said to D13, H doesn't call or anything for me. He goes through D13 which her C said is NO good. This was just yesterday. But there is nothing I can do about it. I tried time and time again to get him not to get her in the middle of things but he does it anyway. I was dependent as far as my panic attacks go with H.
I don't want to give into this so that's why I'm going to C and have been since H walked out.
You are doing the right things then. Good for you. Do NOT Give in. This is YOUR life and you are in charge of it. Don't you dare let that take over your life. Do not surrender! Do you pray? Come up with a short mantra that helps you through so you can say it out loud and talk YOURSELF down from the attacks. IF you don't pray, I'll send some to you...(but you may want to start!)
Keep up the work, and it IS work. But that's life. And it's worth it. j-
PS as far as d13 being dragged into all this, why does he do that? What is he afraid of when talking to you? That you'll fall apart? And the c has told HIM this to his face? Hmmmm. Well Don't fuel that fear of his or you'll get nowhere AND your d13 will keep getting sucked in. Can you tell her to refer her father to you and then handle it? Think about that. If you can do it, please by all means do so. For all concerned.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
