I'm going to bring out a 2x4 (mostly because it is something I need to hear myself).

Do you want to be married to Dan as he is now? Seriously just as things are now, do you want to stay married?

I can understand if he were to get some help for his issues and want to change, then you all might choose to get back together. But as Dan is right now, do you want to continue to be married to him?

Also isn't that a simple question your L could answer about what happens if Dan does not sign the papers?

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DS19 and DS17
Married 06/1989
Divorced 01/2011