Anyway, I plan on not focusing on him. It seems as though he is a lost cause. I can't help him if I tried.
you can't help him if you don't help yourself. that is the way you will help him, by your example.
My H was WAY farther gone than yours, but look what happened to me, because I focused on my self instead of what he was doing. granted I was always on here asking, why this, why that, but outside of DB, and in front of him, I was totally focused on me and what I was doing, and my R with God.
and thank you for pointing out the 2x4 for having expectations. remove them ALL. and like I said, just pretend he is a good friend that is really messed up emotionally and he is staying in your home. He is going to be angry for no reasons sometimes, he's going to act retarded, and he's going to do stupid things. the more you focus on these things, the more he will do them and the worse it will get.
and I want you to stop speaking your M into the ground, like saying "husbandless".
There is a great author who wrote "Hung by the Tongue" I heard him speak, and it was marvelous. He's a christian author, and he talks about how powerful our words are. God created us in HIS image, and when God spoke, it WAS. He has given us power, and our words can create life or it can create death. There is a lot to say about self-fulfilled prophecy.
So, start speaking life!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
remove them ALL. and like I said, just pretend he is a good friend that is really messed up emotionally and he is staying in your home. He is going to be angry for no reasons sometimes, he's going to act retarded, and he's going to do stupid things. the more you focus on these things, the more he will do them and the worse it will get. 
