Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

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OTM-

you've helped me a lot on my thread, in terms of giving me some insight on what it's like to be the spouse with ADHD.

i'll try to return the favor here.

in your list of what you're expecting, you mention you want a wife who supports your dreams and will give you the freedom to pursue them. as the non-ADHD spouse in my M, i do my best (IMO) to give my H the freedom to pursue business ventures, social interaction (which he needs in order to thrive and be happy), and we even recently (jointly) purchased a motorcycle this past summer...a lifelong dream of his. BUT. your wife has dreams, too. so do i. my H and i have never been on a vacation alone, with the exception of our honeymoon, 2 years ago. we talk about planning trips, but they never come to fruition, mostly because he's chasing his dreams and mine get put on the back burner. having dreams that BOTH of you pursue together should certainly be an aspect of every healthy marriage.

i'm not saying you don't support her dreams, i don't know your full situation. but i can tell you that it's a LOT easier to support someone else in chasing their dreams when they are putting an equal amount of effort into helping you pursue your own.